Today I am celebrating. I am celebrating my partner’s 26th birthday! Look at him, isn’t he so handsome??


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The correct answer to my question above, is yes. He’s strapping.




We will spend the day working (unfortunately) and then have a delicious, vegan dinner with his Dad and brother. From there we will head to the Hank 3 concert; which I’m sure is going to be a good ‘ole time for sure. (I really wish you were here in Cali Bearpaw; you’d have way too much fun.)




Not familiar with Hank 3? Here is a little taste of what I’ll be listening to all night.



Cheers to this man, whom without, I would have probably runaway and no one would have heard from me in 8 months. He keeps my head above water and can’t resist my pouty face; it’s damn near perfect.




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PS. I’m not sure who said my title quote…

I found this blog yesterday morning that I have become unhealthily obsessed with as the day has progressed. It’s all about traveling, traveling by yourself and tips for being in a new place. It’s just awesome to put it plainly. The blog is called World of Wanderlust. and it makes me want to travel the world. I have read close to 25 of her articles and I continue to read every one that pops up!
Here are the articles that have already inspired me to want to just pick up and travel the world:

1. Deciding to Travel Solo: Breaking Through 6 Common Concerns
This article goes over the thoughts people tend to have before then feel like committing to traveling solo is an option.

2. Why All Women Should Travel Solo Once in Their Lives
Well I get restless easily and want to travel (Hello California!) and yet I get homesick easily… I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t. Plus I’m a woman so I figured I should read this just because.

3. Afraid to Travel Solo? All it Takes is One Moment of Insane Courage
Who doesn’t want to do something they think they’ll never get to do again in their lives?!

4. If You Don’t Know Where You Are Going Any Road Will Take You There
As you can tell, I feel like this is my current life anthem. I’m not sure where I’m headed so I’m a little lost looking for paths. I just need to remember that no matter what path I take will get me there… I just prefer knowing where there is.

5. Young and Restless: The Modern Day 20-Something
ANY person I’ve met in my generation tends to feel like they are wandering aimlessly and have no idea what the hell they’re suppose to be doing. We no longer live in the world of getting married, having a family and fitting a career into that. We want to live for ourselves, we just have no idea how to. (PS sorry if you have your shit together, congrats.)

6. 11 Completely Awkward Solo Travel Scenarios (And How to Cope)
She offers helpful safety tips and general tips on what to do when people ask why you’re alone over and over again.

7. 10 Practical Tips for Solo Female Travelers
Again, I’m a woman and if I ever travel solo, these were super helpful.

8. Tell Yourself 20
I just really needed this simple list of 20 things you should tell yourself. And sometimes we all need inspiration to keep us going.

Keeping up with the Wanderlust theme, I am going up to Big Bear this weekend with my partner and his family. Maybe I’ll have some exciting adventures to share, or maybe I’ll forget my camera or never take pictures… Which given my track record is probably going to happen. Anywho! I hope your weekend rocks, because I know mine will!

PS. Here’s some Big Bear pics!




Right now I’m in a bit of a funk. And even though I’m not exactly sure why the tough get going all of a sudden when it gets tough, but I feel the urge to follow them.


I don’t want to be stressed about money and relationships and work and school. I just want to be happy! Is that too hard to ask?! It’s unfortunate because I use to have such drive, and will, to accomplish huge life goals, yet after some hard blows, this train has gone off the rails. Because of this never-ending loop of doom I’m stuck in, I’ve decided to make some terrifying big changes.



I’m going to figure out how to scrape up the money to apply (yes, only apply) to online school. And I’m going to look into applying at a local CC where they offer certification in American Sign Language. Now this is terrifying because if I get into school, I don’t know how I’ll pay for it. And anyone who has been in my situation will know that tuition money doesn’t pop out of the ground in Spring just waiting for the pulling; so that’ll be an interesting 88 degree battle. (That’s almost a 90 degree angle for those of you who didn’t take geometry.)



I applied at Starbucks part time to continue the legacy that my Brother and soon to be Sister-in-Law have started. Mainly I applied there for a second job because I have only heard really good things about them as a company and there’s only drama because of the people who work there. A sound company with people drama? I can handle that! Also, if I make more money then maybe I won’t be so poor.



I’m applying at a second part-time job to help with the stresses related to money. Yes it will suck up my free time, resulting in more stress in my relationships section. However, I think lessening the stress of only making enough to pay the bills and eat rice with beans will trump being crazy busy and potentially working 14 hour days.


Ahhwww relationships. Sometimes they’re easy and sometimes they’re difficult and right now I am just trying to survive them. It is quite hard being away from my friends and family recently. I chalk it up to my good friend and my brother recently living alone; aka big life events that I wish I could share with them. And yes, I have seen their abodes while I’ve visited; but it’s tough knowing I can’t just go sit with my best friend and binge watch Netflix or go play video games with my brother. I figured it would start to get easier, but it hasn’t and that longing is getting real old. I know if I ever was too homesick I could take a few week hiatus from life and stay in my brother’s spare bedroom, the couch at my parent’s place or even crash with a good friend in Phoenix. I’m just afraid once I get a taste of how sweet all that may be, that I won’t want to come back to California. Which brings me to the dilemma: the one I love in California and the people I love in Arizona. It’s not like I don’t have friends in California who have helped me through some crazy shit, I do have some amazing friends here. So it must be my family who are sucking the fun out of living away from Tucson, thanks worst mother ever. (Don’t worry, side joke.)


This has turned into a blog post mainly derived to help me be held accountable for all this shit I don’t want to actually commit to. Remember, I avoid goals that aren’t trivial these days. I’ll keep you updated on whether Starbucks wants another Frey in the company or if 1 ½ is already too much. I leave you with some inspirational quotes because they give me a false sense of hope that I need right now.

Great things never came from comfort zones








I’m excited because I have my first featured Guest Post on this amazing blog A Faithful Passion!! I go over some very basic steps to keeping a strong long distance relationship with your family and friends. Check it out here!

Here’s a taste:




Now that you’ve got a taste of the images, go check out the article!!

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I’ve realized that it’s easier for me to network with a Facebook profile, in both my personal and blog life; mainly my blog life. I have decided to limit my time because honestly I have actually started doing more without the constant urge to check Facebook or Instagram.

I’ve read three books this week. I’ve gone on 9 hikes and I even bulked up 15 lbs worth of muscle. And obviously I’m lying. I have started reading again, which I missed and I am working out more but that’s because I just need to be healthier in general and stop watching so much Netflix before my brain melts into my couch. I’m not attached to my phone all the time which is nice. One day I actually just left it home while I ran errands and it was nice… Until I couldn’t remember if I had a certain food at home and had no way of calling Bryan real quick to find out. I suppose the invention of a cell phone wasn’t the worst idea ever.

I will admit I do miss seeing what is going on in my friend’s life given that I don’t see most of them on a regular basis anyway. Guess I have to implement some self-discipline. Let’s just say I doubt that goes well.

Alright, well if you’ve been able to keep up with that thought process then I commend you. I wish you all a lovely evening and someone eat some delicious, crispy fries for me!


The addiction is real. I spent most of Sunday night organizing this huge box of bathroom nonsense, watching 30 Rock and feeling like a Grade-A douche for constantly checking my phone to see the newest post or picture by my friends. And now today, I am plagued with a horrendous headache that is quite literally making me feel dizzy and extremely warm. Although I am sure my headache stems from caffeine withdrawals and not social media withdrawals…

Yesterday was better, but I still had the urge to check my social media. When I woke up I went to check Facebook and see the latest, but alas, I had no Facebook. Given it’s only been two days, I only notice I continue to check my phone when I’m on lunch. Normally during my lunch breaks I watch more 30 Rock and scroll through Instagram, but not anymore.

Today I have not had the urge to check Facebook, or scroll through my Blog Instagram. However, I must admit I do feel a bit like a hypocrite about the fact I still have a Blog Instagram… Buuut in my defense I don’t scroll through it and honestly I don’t care!

I do slightly feel like I am missing out on the events in my friend’s and family’s lives, but I figure if the events are important enough, I will receive a call or text.

In more exciting news, I am starting to eat healthy and work out again. We all know I should have never stopped. I am just uber excited to cut yummy, bad-for-me McDonald’s french fries out of my diet… I know, I know; I can make my own homemade yummy french fries, but it’s not the same! Plus they’d have to be baked anyway. And I very much dislike baked french fries and I know I’m not alone.

Well this has been a cluster of ideas that I actually had a thought-about order in my head before I actually sat down and started typing… Oh well! Enjoy your night and think of me eating brown rice and veggies while you savor your delicious cheese-filled dinner!
And even though my sarcasm drips off every “positive” change I’m making, I know the following statement in this little inspiration image is too true and I’ll be glad I started these changes now rather than later.


PS- Wrote this yesterday, hence the off days and references. Too lazy to edit. 😉

Alright dudes and dudettes, I have an announcement. I have given this some serious thought and have seriously thought about this for some time now. I have decided that I am going to deactivate my Facebook page and get rid of my personal Instagram. I know a couple of you are having a panic attack at just the idea of disconnecting from the social media realm. I’ve read countless blog posts and articles on other people who have done this, and have yet to read this decision impacted their life negatively.



I have come to this conclusion because I am tired of feeling like I have to, or need to, check my social media a couple times a day. Sure, I can just not check my apps, or social media sites, but I know myself well enough that when I want to avoid cleaning, or laundry, I’ll just mindlessly scroll through these sites.


Now I know the smart few of you caught that I’m only deactivating my Facebook, not completely deleting it. This is because seeing the pictures and receiving the updates from my family are a way for me to feel less homesick (living 8 hours away and all). I’m going to just deactivate it and see how I do for awhile. If I decide after the month I’m very homesick without seeing pictures posted by my family, then I will reactivate and just keep family around.


I am keeping my social media in regards to my blog; which is still a serious work in progress. But, life is life and sometime I just don’t want to reorganize my blog categories, ya know?


I have attached the links to my Facebook Blog Page (which is dismal, I know), my blog Instagram and my Blog twitter below.
I’m leaving my Facebook and Instagram active through Sunday night so I can get any emails and phone numbers I don’t have, that I wish I did.
If you want to still read my blog, you can like my blog page on Facebook and when I post, you will see the post in your stream; just like if I were to post a status update. And if you were tired of seeing my posts, then you don’t have to see anything from me ever again! You win and I win.


My Blog Facebook Page: Frey Your Mind
My blog Instagram is: @freyyourmind
My twitter is: @amber_frey


If you have any questions, feel free to ask.


Well we all know consistency can be a hard trait to keep, and alas, I have fallen into an inconsistent pattern of posting. I am sorry, but only kinda.
I have been busy since the wedding; moving and the GISHWHES hunt this week have kept me pretty busy. Plus, we still have more boxes packed than unpacked, which sucks.
It’s such a bummer I can’t get my act together faster, because I have about 5 tutorials worth of images that just need some words attached to them!
Right now I’m just trying to figure out how to potentially go back to school, balance saving for my brother’s wedding present and paying rent on time. So here’s to all those millennials who could use a break, or two… Or eight.
Since, I am not giving you anything of real sustenance myself, here are some articles that I really enjoyed reading and felt they helped me light the fire under my ass.
A post about how one partner is optimistic and the other is a “realist” (or pessimist) by Elements of Style.
An article about setting goals by a certain age; fun and attainable goals by Kent Heartstrings.
This older post about a summer reading list; which made me realize I miss reading and have started again by Mandy Leigh.
Those of you who saw that lovely watercolor piece of cake, let it be known this is the video that inspired me by clover + dot.
Alright, well now that you guys are semi-amused (even thought I know you aren’t at all) I’m leaving you with this beautiful sentiment. Read it. Memorize it. Let it soak into your pores and stay there forever. Use it as a pillow. Or just throw it away. Whatever you decide to do, just know I made it myself!

Alright ladies and gents. I think those of you who frequent the DIY & Crafts and Hair & Beauty sections on Pinterest (check out mine btw!) have seen that foot bath to rid yourself of dry skin using mouth wash. You know, the one below; which, I have no idea where it originated to give credit BTW, so sorry in advance.

Well, I did it. I didn’t use Listerine because we have the regular store brand kind of mouthwash, but I’m sure it was basically the alcohol that’s needed anyway.
So you mix ¼ cup Mouthwash, ¼ cup Vinegar and ½ cup warm water. Well I can tell you a cup of water isn’t going to cover your foot unless you have the perfect foot-sized bowl lying around. I ended up (roughly) using 1/3 cup mouthwash, 4 cups warm water and 1 cup of vinegar. After I realized how little liquid the original recipe was, I just sort of poured more in by eye.
While the dead skin didn’t wipe off, it definitely was easy to buff away. I made a simple sugar/olive oil scrub and massaged my feet after for a couple minutes and my feet were unbelievably smooth. I have built some serious soccer calluses over the years and I nearly cut down the entire rough parts on my heels. So I’d say this Pinterest test was two thumbs up.
I’ll probably start doing more of these because everything is on Pinterest and I like to see if they even work! Stick around and see if my stuff turns into Pinterest Fail worthy attempts.

Finally, the reveal. Why was I on such a strict eating plan and constant work-out routine? I’ll tell you…
Because my bridesmaid dress DID NOT FIT. AT. ALL. As most big-booty girls can attest to, I had help pulling the dress over my head because there was no way in Hell it would fit being pulled up my hips and butt.
Finally, a month ago I decided to try on my dress for the first time since I got it back in January. As fate would have it, the dress would not go over my hips. Obviously upset, I embarked on a mission to lose some inches and squeeze myself into that dress. At just a month away a new dress would not make it in time and I really didn’t have the money to purchase a new one anyway.
That is why for a month I had an extremely strict diet and vigorous work-out routine… Well vigorous for me. I ate healthier than I ever think I have in my life and I started slimming up.
So did I fit in my dress or what? I DID.

Thanks to some alterations, that baby hugged me tighter than a Mama with a newborn. I was able to stand, walk, sit, dance and even occasionally (or not so occasionally) bend over to grab the train to protect Amanda’s dress from the cacti and dirt. It was a successful month and an ever more successful wedding.

Will I stay with my new found intense plan? To a degree. I will enjoy the occasional coke with my buffalo chicken pizza, but for the most part it looks like I will have a plant-heavy diet. Bring on the legumes, rice and mushrooms! I have also adjusted my finances and might be able to pay for a gym membership and join my partner for evening workout sessions. And by join my partner I mean: I’ll haphazardly run, lift weights and stretch while he pumps some serious iron… Like multiple 100’s here.

Anywho. I’m going to go do something productive, like start packing the kitchen, or watch Netflix; either way I know it’ll be invigorating.
I’ll leave you with some more lovely photos!









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